Monday, November 27, 2006

Revelations...

Well, i guess the weekend is already over. Man U drew wit chelsea.. Fair result i think, it was a game of 2 different halves. The final verdict bout me and her is in. And all i have to say is i'll stop going after her from now on. I'll bury dissolve all feelings i have for her. I'll move on from this episode even if its very hard for me.

Why? Cos she said that she still loves the other guy no matter what and i should just let go. Well, i know some ppl might continue to fight this battle but the way i see it, if i do, i'd be fighting a losing battle. Don't get me wrong, i'm not one who gives up easily (rite jac? :P) on something, but i am a realist. And the way i see things, this is as good as goodbye. Eh... not say goodbye for good la, we are still friends and still contact each other on a normal basis. But i guess from now on, thats all we'll ever be : just friends.

I guess i have to be happy about that; i mean , rather thn not being friends at all rite? But i do wonder.. why is it so hard for her to get over someone that she knows she can't have? Even if u'd say differnt ppl have different levels of tolerance/time to let go, but takkan something as BIG as this also can't see? So i guess the saying 'love is blind' is true all along? Or should i say 'love is stupid' ? Well, at least it makes ppl do stupid things rite? As for me, like i mentioned in my previous post, i'm not gonna sulk over her or dwell over the rejection. Nope, i'm in the 'picking myself up' process now. No hard feelings towards her. Somethings in life just aren't ment to be rite? And these things are certainly not ment to be forced. If the other person doesn't wanna tango wit u, thn guess u just have to find another tango partner eh? Just have to accept some facts in life.

So i guess thats the end of my drama (this one at least). Faye says its like a korean drama.. Correct me if i'm wrong, but isnt there always someone who dies in korean dramas?? But so far everyone involve is still alive n well wo.. :)

Oh, and a special thanks to Su Ling, Leo and Kat for being supportive and giving me words of encouragement and comfort!! Thx guys girls!! luv u 2 bits!

Rite.. Nuff bout that. Other big news happenin around me.. Oh the couple that i blogged about last time remember?? Well, they've split up and moved out!! *plays line from song " This calls for a toast so pour the champaigne, pour the champaigne"* Well, actually the guy fled from the girl.. tell u it was a BIG mess la. Actually they were both back at the girls hometown of Ipoh few weeks back, then last sunday the guy fled from the girl.

Well, long story short, the guy is no where to be found ; The girls family came last weekend to pack up all her stuff and go back to hometown. Her mom said that the guy conned her of around RM6,000 over the years!!! Ask to pay this la, buy that la, borrow money la.. My god.. when my other housemates and me heard that, we were quite stunned!! Now, we don't know whos the more evil one... the guy or the girl.. I believe in karma : what goes around comes around. And i guess when it comes around on him, he's gonna suffer badly. Can't say i feel sorry for him. Not one bit actually. The person i actually feel sorry for are his parents. What happend to their son, become sampah masyarakat. Die also no use la..

And one of my other housemate also moved out recently, went to live somewhere near his girlfriend. So now 1 unit, only 3 ppl live. Me, my roommate and that guy (the one from above). Guess its time 2 start anew eh?

Wednesday, November 22, 2006

Moving on?? Not so fast....

Latest revelations tell me that i may be a lil to harsh on her. And deep down, i know i don't wanna move on. I still have a thing for her.. sorry leo.. can't let go yet. So i'm keeping my options open for now. I was very upset n hurt whn i posted the last 'real' entry the other day. I'm sorry. But after calming down, think rationally, i guess everyone deserves a chance to explain themselves rite?

Well, she did call me earlier on to talk bout it. Didn't actually get to tell her everything i wanted to, but i guess its all about the timing eh? She says she's gonna talk things over with him this week and will let me know her next move after that. A pretty productive conversation we had i should say.

All i can say is, where i go depends on path that she decides to take. Not that i can't make decisions on my own, its just i don't wanna have any regrets. And i fear i might if i don't listen to what she has to say at least.

I also don't know why i'm so drawn into this.. maybe i do know, but i'm just not sure yet. Oh well, gotta wait till d end of d week to know what will happen between us. Whatever it is, so long as she has think about it thoroughly and is happy bout it, then i will not object to it. So.. till the next big thing comes along...

Tuesday, November 21, 2006

Monday, November 20, 2006

Forced.... Nobody Can Be Forced.. Or Can They??

I'm feelin very pissed/upset/angry rite now. Why? Well, it's becos i have friend (i guess i should say HAD) who wants to cut out all ties from me. Reason? All she said was : i wanna be happy, i can't smile infront of my parents/classmates anymore. I am a very understanding and forgiving person. And I guess i could understand dat even if it may take all of my understanding-ppl power to do so. Oh wait.. i don't .. so shoot me. Somehow, I don't think i'm the main reason for this to happen. But i can roughly guess wat is. I think i'm just guilty by association. But if i am the main reason, I'd like to know why.

I know she is probably readin this post but as u all know me, i don't care who reads it as long as i get to convey d message and let ppl know wat i think rite? If wat she said was sum test 2 test my character, then i guess i failed. Cos i certainly don't see the logic of lettin ur friends go even if she said she'll regret it. And i did ask her if she was gonna regret, why do it? Her reply was simple : i'm forcing myself. WTF!!!, why would she force herself to do sumthin tat she will regret?. Guess part of d regret was knowing us in the first place. As far as i can remember, this is the first time someone has actually said these sorta things to me. Done this thing to me. Am i dat bad an effect on her life that she has to say this?

Rite, i guess i have to stop feelin sorry for myself. Although i can say i saw sumthing bad about to happen (even if she did say "maybe good news maybe bad") , i could never.. NEVER EVER had foreseen that this might happen. Why does things have to be this way lar.. why.. Fuck(i'll refrain from typin out more)...

You people might be sayin so wat rite? Just another person only ma. Well, she isn't just another person. At least 2 me she ain't. She also happens to be the girl i've been ranting about in my past few post. The girl dat i so deeply care about. The girl dat i thought i might have sumthin special (in a good way) with. So thats why i'm feelin wat i'm feeling now.

So Kat, i guess this is it. Strike 3. This is the sign dat i needed. Needed to move on without having any fear of regrets or wat ifs. U are happy for me yes? *damnnit, cant even find the mood to type 'lol'*. Guess its time to wake up and smell the coffee d. Set my priorities straight once more. Guess one can never defy the wants of god (if god does exist) huh. Guess i have no one but myself to blame cos well, i sendiri gatal go and fall for someone who already says she doesn't feel dat way for me. Oh well, time to find ways to flush & FORCE these fucked up feelings out of my system once n for all. No turning back.

Don't worry, i won't do anything fuckin stupid to myself (ie. hurt myself physically, SMOKE, drink till i get drunk, take drugs, etc.) Nope, my way of doing things is as safe as one can think. Blasting my music so loud that the neighbors complain. Plus, i have plenty of shows to watch (thanks to soon).

U know wats ironic? Here i am havin all this sad n painful things happenin to me when i'm suppose to attend my cousin's wedding dinner later tonight. And yesterday was the wedding ceremony both the traditional chinese style and the modern style (the exchanging of vows, rings and sayin anythin u want to ur family which basically means thanks n sorries). Happy for them dat they manage to find true love.

Oh well, guess dats life huh. Or part of it anyway, hmmm.. sumhow i feel much more calm. Blogging has oways been a good way for me to release built up tension (besides the blastin of music). Like my MSN avatar currently reads : Shit happens, but mostly to me so don't worry.

Thursday, November 16, 2006

Some Questions....

Leo's recent blog contained a few questions regarding wat the oppsite sex is thinking. Well, i think i should follow her lead n 'copy n paste' a few questions of my own (got modify) :

1) Can or will a girl like a guy, but just wanna be friends?

2) Can or will the girl still be close to the guy even if she knows how he feels for her? Wat does it mean if she can/will?

3) How to girls differenciate between good/close/best friend material and boyfriend/partner material in a guy?

4) What does it mean when a girl knows bout d guys feelings 4 her, but doesn't seem to wanna do anything bout it? Why?

5) Will a girl feel regret/jealous/bad/etc. that the guy that once had strong feelings for her just gave up and went for another girl? (Think Avril's Sk8r Boi scenario) :P

6)Wat will a girl think of a guy who gives her presents just for fun. (Which excludes Birthdays, Christmas or any other holiday/event where ppl exchange presents)

7) Is it possible that a girl wants to be with the guy, but just not yet??

8) How does a girl determine d border line between a guy who's persevering/not givin up to win her heart and a guy who's just being too annoyin and too presistant even if she tells him to stop with it?

9) How long is waiting for the girl too long? How much perseverence is too much?

10)Can/will a girl change her feelings she had/didn't have for a guy ?

11)Is it possible for a girl to have feelings for more thn 1 guy at once? What should d guy do? Move on?

Well, i guess dats all for now. I wanted to post a 'real' post but i've still got lots of things ponderin in my head. Maybe after readin other's opinions regardin the questions above, i may be able to see things a lil clearer. All i can say now is i'm like waitin for water in d glass to settle down so i can see d dirt at d bottom and d clear water above. I will update again pretty soon. Till then, cheers!

Wednesday, November 08, 2006

Food : Savior For A Broken Heart.

At lease that was wat i thought. But honestly, can say it helps about 60% la. But add that with playin futsal for 4 times in 7 days and u get it up to 90% in my case :D.

As i'm very free now might as well tell a story eh? WARNING : may be abit too long and sumtimes emo or sumtimes emo-less (kejam :P). Yes this is related to my previous post.

Alright fastforward couple of weeks from dat incident of "ur-too-good-4-me" shit, actually found out that there were some unresolve issues with her and him, but one day they got d talkin and seems like everything was um.. resolved (Dont wanna get to d details... very messy stuff >.<). Everything seemed to be back to normal (IE everyone is friends again). So then i thought, since the last time i tried to win her heart, d fact dat she couldnt let go of d guy was d problem and that now things are all resolved, it would be ok rite?? So there i went again, stepping up to d batting plate for d second time (dats a baseball metaphore ok). So i asked indirectly and directly sumstuff la. Then this was wat she said (more or less) : " sorry but i dont seem to have 'dat' sort of feelings for u. i just treat u as a friend, good friend , etc". Then i said : " but i tot last time u said u had feelings 4 me as well? " . Her reply was swift : " Last time my mind was messed up with so many things, didnt think straigt". That was strike 2. Was not totally bummed out as i kinda expected it, well actually i didnt. But then, with these sorta things, gotta be abit realistic and leave some space for these things to happen rite?

Then knowin me, i agreed to be just as friends. But its hard isnt it, just being friends with someone u had feelings for. Hard to just sit across d table from her during lunch and smiling o laughing at her jokes when u still have a lil something for her but she doesn't see it since i've already agreed to be just friends and and told her i've dropped all those feelings for her. Oh well, gotta be d bigger person rite?? But IMHO, i dont think she has totally 'lepas-ed' her feelings for my friend yet. Can see it so clearly. And this is when i said to myself : " enough is enough, just drop her for now... Don't be stupid and play 3 wheel AGAIN (yes folks.. AGAIN!!!) " . So i guess i'll leave it all to fate (i believe we pave our own destiny) and just let things be if in future we can have sumthing, then great, if not, i wont sulk over it (points at someone :P).

Rite.. so if dat wasnt fucked up enough, heres another thing that got broken : My acoustic guitar!! Yes, my one thing with curves dat loves me and gives me comfort at my time of sadness and grief.... is broken!! chao ci bai goddamn muther fuckr!! ... -.-. My roommate accidently broke it. How? well, my guitar was placed beside my computer, and he wanted to shift d speakers cos it was blockin my DVD rom from openin. So as he was liftin d speaker (its a small speaker), he knocked my guitar down. He sempat lagi say "oh ur guitar fallin .. bang" .... he thought it wouldnt fall as it seemed.. But it did! and now the neck ( the part where the tuning is) is seriously cracked!! Cant play it anymore as d tension of d strings alone may just snap the neck into 2. And want to replace it also impossible as a guitar is 1 whole piece. So how? Ask him to replace?? He also not say got money. Smart ass got into a argument with his mom and now his mom refuse to bank in cash to him (at least dats wat i understand la). 600 bucks ok.. chao chibai.. wan me tell my dad?? Oh wait, u want me die ar? So until now, the issue is unresolved. At least i know he wont runaway back to sarawak cos he's still studyin so i guess still got time to settle.

So there, 2 fucked up stuff happens to me. But luckily, something happend at the end of dat week dat made my life oh so much better. One of my friends invited me and another housemate back to his hometown of Kuala Selangor to hang out, eat seafood and play futsal. And since i wasnt havin any plans, of cos i agreed (actually even if i did, i would've gone anyway). So last weekend, was away in KS, quite a small town actually. Seemed like my friend knows almost everyone there XD. Well, we left KL at around 2, went to Klang first cos he wanted to check if his car was ready from servicing. Apparently not, so we had tea at sum fancy kopitiam. Cant remember the name... Auntie Lim's was it? Reached KS at around 6, played futsal there till 9. My gosh.. only got 2 futsal courts there. hahaha.. Small town indeed. Oh well, nvm la..

Then after everyone bathed and was ready for dinner, we went to makan seafood at sum chinese restaurant. Lets see.. had fish, crab soup, frog's legs, squid and sum vege. Tell u it was absoultly delicious sial!! ka fan also not enuf to finish. hahha.. Friend belanja, so nvm lo.. haha.. and d icing on d cake was we watched MU beat Pompey 3-0 dat nite. hehehe.. After dinner, went jalan jalan in KS lo.. well many places to go la. So in d end we set up a table outside of my friends house. Put a few chairs up, put a few cans of beer in d ice bucket, and just chatted the night away, till around 6 am thn only sleep. hehe..

Next day, woke up at around 3 liao. Friend's mom asked him to take us go makan seafood again. But at a different place this time la. Jalan to get there abit complicated to explain.. belok here, corner there, pusing here, there.. then in d end ended up near d muara sungai and there stood this restaurant with aircon n all (note dat the houses we saw on d way was those old old type u'd expect to see in kampungs). And wat about d food?? If the dinner the night b4 was yummy, this was yummy x10 !!! Lets see, had grilled stingray (yes yes.. the type dat killed the Croc Hunter), grilled kembong fish i think. Fuh.. the chilli dat came with it was even more fantastic. Then had Tomyam prawns. The unique thing about this was it was served in a coconut!! B4 d dish came out, my friend said this was one of d restaurants signature dishes. And boy was he right!! 1 sulrp of d hot tomyam soup and i was in heaven!! walao.. sedap giler!~~~ . And the fact dat d prawns was fresh added to d delicousness to it. hehe... wat else.. had mussels. Don't usually eat this but it was too delicious to pass up. Luckily i didnt or i'd kill myself if i did. lol... Oh, got deep fried fish in sum starchy soup. Fantastic!! . The servings was so generous tat i didnt need to add rice summore !! And again.. my friend chia. ahhaha.. well, his mom gave him cash la.. so can say his mom chia la.. :D.

Then after dat went ronda ronda again b4 packin back to KL. Detoured again to Klang cos my friend wanted to yumcha with his friend. Was at sum cafe called Leo's if i'm not mistaken. Nuthin fancy i reckon. But it did have gellato ~ ! . Tats italian ice-cream to those who dont know. :P . So i orded d set meal dat had gellato as dessert.. But wtf, i couldnt chose d flavour i wanted !! But luckily it came out peach flavour. haha.. so kinda syok also :) .

Oh after dat, friends still wasnt full, so we went to selayang to eat nasi lemak. Well, they ate actually, i just watched them. So in d end reached back KL at around 2 am. Superbly fun weekend!! Unfortunetly i dont have a digi cam to take d pics of all d yummy food. >.< . Oh, not forgetting, the price.. is so worth it. dont think u can get that kinda price even in malacca let alone kl :P

The next day, play futsal again. Then nuthin much happend till today lo. Oh, be comin home this week. So anyone around gimme a holla aite. I'll get back to ya ;) . Gotta go lunch with dat girl again with tat housemate of mine again after this. Aihh.... Still waitin for my virus scannin to finish though. ><